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This Oracle answer is about the need to reconnect with people you have chosen to cut yourself off from. If you don’t, then you will miss out on relationships with real potential. There is also a risk that other people will appear and take them away from you. Time, and life itself, may also erode what is currently still there.
Even the offer of something or someone new may not be enough to tempt you during this phase. That alone should show you where the problem lies. The issue is not the value or worth of the people in question, it’s actually your own attitude. Something (or someone) has distanced you from human relationships.
You may feel stubborn about staying by yourself. You may feel defensive. You may feel complacent – or cynical. You may even have lost interest entirely. None of these emotional states are likely to get you very far. Thus, the first step in reconnecting yourself to others is to begin working on your attitude.
You can sit there passively, if you like, and wait for someone to come and rescue you. But there are no guarantees this will happen. Alternatively you can leave the situation you find yourself in, and seek help. Once you have lost the negativity, you will be amazed at how different those same people look to you.
If you are lucky then a new relationship may still be on offer once you have transformed yourself. And then you can begin again, with an entirely different kind of connection. One that you contribute to, energetically and passionately. One that you can value, appreciate and nurture for a long time to come.
If it’s solitude you seek then you can have this, but in a way which feels peaceful and fulfilling. And also in a way which leaves others feeling involved in your life, rather than distanced from it. And if you really want affection and intimacy? Well, it’s out there for you. But first, life reorganisation is required.
When you believe that putting an end to something is a wonderful, heroic thing to do, then you are risking dangerous thinking. This Oracle answer describes a situation where you could lose touch with the real world, to the point where you actually believe that ruthless action is your best answer.
First, it’s important to understand the mood, the atmosphere and the situation which has taken you to this point. When this Oracle answer appears, you are typically in a time of great change and transition. Nothing is fixed or known, everything is open. This is partly why you feel you have to act – now.
The problem is your inability to see just how much destruction you could create. You may feel as if you are on some kind of quest or mission. If so, you need to re-focus and understand the kind of threat you pose, and the amount of damage you can do. It’s crucial that you understand your own strength.
For a start, others may retaliate if you threaten, or impact, everything they hold dear. Every action will provoke a reaction now. In other cases, what appears to be just a one-off to you – a quick strike – could prompt a chain of events that ends up bringing hardship to many, over a much longer period of time.
There is a big message to get real and become grounded with this Oracle answer. Stop responding to the moment. Remember where you are, and who you are. Get in touch with yourself again and reconnect to reality, life and other people. Remember your humanity and your connection to other living creatures on the planet. Pause long enough to analyse your motives and goals.
There is something glorious and inspiring about the message Carpe Diem – seize the day. In this particular instance, though, you need to be more intelligent than that. What are the stakes you are risking now? Could your aims be better achieved in a more peaceful way? Is your grand goal worth the potential pain?
Without men who are tough, determined and occasionally ruthless, nothing would move forward on this planet. The special challenge for the man in this Oracle answer is to find compassion too. He is well-equipped to get rid of people or situations which are no longer necessary. But where is his heart?
Not surprisingly, this man frightens people. They can see how destructive he might be – even vicious – in certain situations. His dark side is clearly visible. The issue for you is simple. Can he keep this darkness at bay, all the time? If he can’t, then you need to understand just how devastating his actions can be.
He may be drawn to films, books or other entertainment which helps him deal with these issues. So this man may be a fan of action, or Westerns, or even Shakespeare. He may be fascinated by police or military dramas or epic science-fiction. What happens in the name of good or evil has much to teach him.
What would happen if he decided to give up the role, or the situation, which makes him so powerful? What if he chose to walk away? He would lose a great deal. And he may find himself feeling lost, ill-equipped, even defenceless for a while. But a more peaceful existence might also be on offer. It’s his choice.
A man like this cannot help but make enemies. There are those who will applaud his actions as necessary – but he will inevitably alienate anyone with the opposing point of view. Thus, the need to stay tough – to remain strong. Over time, this man can become fixed, defensive, even aggressive.
The truth is we need him, and his willingness to take action. And as long as he is on our side (your side) you’re likely to see him as a heroic figure – a real man, in the old-fashioned sense of the word. If you’re not on his side, though, you need to plan your tactics very carefully. Are you equipped for the battle?
